Have you been struggling for years to understand your partner, your parents, your children, your friends, or your boss, to no avail?
Do you feel out of control in relationships, and often want to give up?
Do you feel that others take advantage of you, or often treat you poorer than you treat them?
Do you want more passion and more joy in your intimate relationship?
The area of relationships is the hardest to master for many of us, because it involves two people with two different sets of wishes, models of the world, expectations, life experiences, preferences, and patterns of thought, feeling and behavior. Intimate relationships are particularly difficult, because gender differences make the interaction more complex, and because they touch us very, very deep.
Relationships are where we open our hearts, where our Spirit remembers what it's like to be in affinity with another, to become one. It's where we realize that, beneath it all, we are all the same. We have the same needs and feelings, and the same desires: to love and be loved, to grow, to be appreciated, to have fun, to be enough.
With openness comes vulnerability, and with vulnerability the potential for our old wounds to flare up. If we are not equipped to understand our reactions, the pain turns into suffering, and the lessons that are present in front of us pass us by. Months later, years later, the situation repeats, perhaps more strongly than before, giving us another opportunity to learn that lesson. It's wonderful that the universe works this way, because it always supports our growth. It wants us to become more, just because we can.
You have more control than you think over the type of people and circumstances you attract into your life. And, most of all, you have a lot of control over how you react to them. You can learn to choose your feelings, instead of them just happening to you. You can learn how to influence others when you learn how to influence yourself. You can get in touch with your feminine and masculine energies, and use them consciously to create polarity in your intimate relationships. You can learn to see the blessing in every situation, and be happy when most others would be devastated.
When you do that, your relationships transform. You deserve to be surrounded by people who love and appreciate you, and you don't have to wait for them to change, because you have the power to shift it all. It may seem like magic, but I can show you how this magic is very ordinary.